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Caldwell's avatar

I loved this one always turn back to Alexa Chung's essay on turning 40, the best is yet to come

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tina zhang's avatar

me too! the perfect mix of wise and whimsy

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Lory's avatar

Loved reading this piece! I'm also turning 30 in a few weeks and feel such a mixture of emotions about what's to come - happy birthday!

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tina zhang's avatar

thank you lory and happy birthday to you too! i'm very optimistic about 30s being better than 20s though

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Shelly's avatar

Also coming to grips with this new decade—here’s to entering our SATC arch 🍸

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tina zhang's avatar

i ordered a frozen cosmo the other day and it honestly made me feel better

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jenny's musings's avatar

Happy birthday!!! Ill be turning 38 and looking back, my 30s have been lovely; I exist significantly more calm and self assured than my 20s. I still have no idea what I'm doing but I am now just here for the ride. Or it's the prozac talking lol (which I also started in my 30s great decision I made)

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tina zhang's avatar

that's what i've been hearing, i'm looking forward to being more self possessed and at peace.

happy early birthday -- excited for both of us:)

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luiza's avatar

that's beautiful :( i'm 25 now and i look forward to be 30 hahaha in case i miss the day, happy birthday!!

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tina zhang's avatar

thank you!!

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Arden Yum's avatar

So beautiful, happy birthday!

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tina zhang's avatar

thank you arden!! much love as always

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Felix‘s Foon's avatar

Wow this came at a perfect time! My birthday is in less then 4 days!

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tina zhang's avatar

happy early birthday!!

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JELENA's avatar

30s are chic, and the mental transformation from worry to "I truly don't give a f*uck" is amazing. I think 20s just have really good marketing, but our 30s are where life and fun really starts. :)

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Thomas Hedonist's avatar

I've been telling people, from the perspective of a man in my late 40s: your 20s are for figuring out who you are, your 30s are for being who you are, your 40s are for learning the consequences (+ & -) of being who you've been. (I think my 50s are going to be about doing the best I can with what I've got.)

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Mónica Bozinoski's avatar

Really loved this essay! I especially related to the part of 30 still being young, but how important it is for us to not procrastinate and postpone the things we want to do, because it's true, everything takes time / is a question of timing. I turned 30 last year and had so many of these same questions as well, and also wrote a small piece about it on my Substack - I feel it's such a "funny" age and the way we look at 30 now is so different from the examples we grew up with, which somehow makes it even more challenging (yet liberating!) to navigate

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fleeflyfloflum's avatar

This is such a calming essay to read, it brought me a lot of peace. I hope you have a fabulous birthday!

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Rubi Balasingam's avatar

I love this, being a 30 year old myself. I don't feel my age, I don't look my age. The hardest thing for me was to accept that I am my age, and there is no expiration date for my little dreams.

Happy Birthday! Congratulations on getting older, I can't wait to read about your next decade.x

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Gal Nurita's avatar

This piece? Absolute soul fuel. 🌟 Just realized we’re stepping into the same tidal wave—30 is rushing toward me this year too, and wow, what a mix of emotions. It’s equal parts nerve-wracking and exhilarating, like standing at the edge of a cliff but knowing you’ve already packed a parachute made of every lesson, stumble, and triumph so far. anyway, Happy Birthday to you!

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BrainFudge's avatar

Turning 35 and also somewhere between blasé and hysterical <3

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Jessica Mamistvalov's avatar

Loved reading this as an almost 30 year old myself! Happy birthday, you’ll do great 💘

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Jenna Garib 🦋's avatar

30S are fun and freeing, its a time where we are still ambitious yet calm. Cheers to your 30s honey!!

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